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BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder . . .
She was not beautiful.
Nothing about her was extraordinary.
Nothing about her made her stand out in a crowd.
She grew up in a family of six.
The eldest, she learnt responsibility at an early age.
As she grew stronger, and brighter,
She instilled a sort of light cheer to whomever she met.
She was not beautiful.
But she made others feel beautiful about themselves.
She meets a rebel boy who thinks he's all man.
Befriending him, she teaches him how to read,
A little boost the man needed to go to college.
They became friends fast and she fell,
Fast in love with her rugged, handsome student.
The "man" then finds himself in a dilemma..
He soon found himself in love with a girl.
A girl so beautiful, she turned even the grouchiest men's head.
Her hair was a halo of light around her,
Her eyes the bluest blue of ocean.
Like an angel he tells his tutor
Like a beautiful angel.
The girl swallows a lump at her throat,
She was not beautiful..
She did not possess the heart of the one she loved..
But she did not care.
As long as he was happy,
She would be or so she tried to.
She helped him write the most beautiful letter to his angel,
All the time envisioning that it was she herself
Receiving those very letters.
And so the girl helped him choose the right words,
Buy the right gifts for his angel..
His angel brought him much joy,
And much pain to the girl who cried behind her smiles.
But that never stopped her from giving more
Than she will ever receive.
Then one day, all hell broke loose.
The angel he loved left him for another man,
A richer, more successful man.
The boy was stunned..
He was so hurt he did not speak for days.
The girl went to him.
He cried on her shoulder and she cried with him.
He hurt and so did she.
Time went by.
And so the wounds healed.
The boy realizes something about his friend/tutor
He never realized before.
How her laughter sounded heavenly...
Or how her smiles brightened up the darkest days.
Or simply how beautiful, yes beautiful she looked to him!
Beautiful.
This plain, simple girl was beautiful to him.
And he began to fall.
Fall so in love with this beautiful girl.
One day, he picks up all his courage to see her.
He walked to her house, nervous and fidgeting.
Running his thoughts over and over in his head.
He was going to tell her how beautiful she was to him.
He was going to tell her how wonderfully in love he was with her.
He knocked.
No one was home.
The next day he finds out,
The beautiful girl he fell in love with
had had a brain aneurysm, putting her into a coma.
The doctors were grim and the family decided to let her go.
One final time he got to see her.
He held her hand.
He stroked her hair.
And he cried for this beautiful girl.
He cried, for he will never see her smile.
Or hear her speak his name.
He cried.
But it was too late.
The beautiful girl was buried and the heavens broke out
In a beautiful spring shower, a cry for their loss.
She was the most beautiful girl in the world.
Look around you.
Aren't there a lot of plain faces?
Take a good look.
A real good look or you might miss out
On that beautiful person.
Forever . . .
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The 90/10 Principle .
Have you read this before.. ? Its too good i think so not my writing but i liked it lots Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least
the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is
decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control
over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking
down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule
off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this
10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you
can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control
how you react. Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks
over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over
what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined
by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup
over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your
spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of
the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change
your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy
crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because
you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After
a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at
school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to
get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive
home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and
daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have
a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it? The answer is " D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You
gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next
time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt
and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the
window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You
arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss
comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended
different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The
other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the
negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your
day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired,
getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off)
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the
cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get
irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into
finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the
day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no
control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the
other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you
know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the
results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this
principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved
stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life . . .
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True Friend and True Love . . .
True Friend and True Love . . .
Have you ever had a friend that you cared for so much?
That you think about them every day, and call everyday just to keep in touch.
A friend who warms your heart, with everything they do.
That you always look forward to the times, when its just the two of you.
A friend that causes your feelings to change, with just uttering one single word.
A friend who can make you laugh, at a joke you already heard.
A friend that you want to be with, every moment possible each and every day.
To share the joys and sorrows of life, and help them in any possible way.
A friend that can influence your day, with a little word that fills you with smiles.
A friend that can do all of this, even when separated by many miles.
Have you ever had a friend that outshines all the others?
A person so special to you, they rank up with sisters or brothers.
But a friend who is even more than that, in their own unique and special ways.
Because this person can make you feel good, even when your having "one of those days."
A friend who can touch your heart, with everything they do.
A friend that knows how you feel, even when you don't want them to.
Have you ever had a friend, who makes you start to feel.
That you may be more than friends, a feeling that is strong and real.
Have you ever had a friend, who has a special place within your heart.
One that you know you really love, in fact you've known it from the start.
A friend who you want to hug, a friend you want to hold.
A friend to keep warm with, when the both of you are cold.
A friend whose eyes enchant you, have you ever had a friend
That has magic in their smile.
A friend you want to kiss, and hold them for a while.
A friend whose touch excites, a friend who you want to spend all day with
And then look forward to the nights.
Have you ever fallen in love, with someone that is a friend?
A love so real and wonderful, a love that is a friend
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WAYS TO BE STRESS FREE
Stress Free in 10 minutes . . .
1. Do Nothing
At least once during the day, take 5 - 10 minutes to sit quietly and do
nothing. Focus on the sounds around you, your emotions and any tension in
your neck, shoulders, arms, chest, etc.
2. Laugh Out Loud
Keep something handy that makes you laugh. It could be a collection of your
favorite comic strips, or a funny eMail from, say, your child or a friend.
You could even take a few moments to think watching your favorite comedy
serial. Turn to this every so often during your day.
3. Tune In
When you face a daunting task, play soothing music - be it classical,
country or jazz. At work you can use the CD drive on your computer to keep
the music at the ready.
4. Think Happy
Focus on someone or something you care deeply about for anywhere from 15
seconds to 5 minutes. Or picture a scene from a peaceful vacation. A phrase
that makes you feel positive about yourself and the world can also work.
5. Hit The Road
Get up from your desk, the couch - wherever you may be - and take a 10
minute walk.
6. Breathe Easy
For 5 minutes, slow your breathing down to about 6 deep-belly breaths a
minute. In other words, inhale for about 5 seconds, exhale for about 5.
7. Rise Relaxed
Right before bed, and after the alarm goes off in the morning, take 5
minutes to relax your entire body. Start by tensing your toes; consciously
relax them. Move on to the muscles in your feet, and then your calves, upper
legs, move upwards until you end by scrunching up and then relaxing the
muscles in your face . . .
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human relations
HI all this is something we all need to work out in our relationships. I liked it very mch hope u all like it too
Human Relationship - A story to share . . .
Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who to blame, whether in a relationship,
in a job or with the people we know. We miss out some warmth in human relationship to give each other support. Treasure what you have. Just a little story for you . . . A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. The mother, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter. The boy playfully went to the medicine bottle and, fascinated with its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child showed signs of poisoning the mother took him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband. When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.
QUESTIONS:
1. What were the four words ?
2. What is the implication of this story ?
Check with the answers only after you have tried to come up with your own.
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ANSWER: - The husband just said "I Love You Darling” . . .
- The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. He is indeed a genius in human relationships. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must understand her a lot and love her with all your heart. "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears & you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think."
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my daddy
THIS IS SMTING I LIKED WHILE SURFING NET SAHRING WITH U ALL AWAITING UR CMNTS ON IT
My daddy is great . . . At 4 Years : My daddy is great. At 6 Years : My daddy knows everybody. At 10 Years: My daddy is good but is short tempered and knows little less than my friend's Daddy. At 12 Years : My daddy was very nice to me when I was young At 14 Years : My daddy is getting fastidious. At 16 Years : My daddy is not in line with the current times. Frankly he does not know anything. At 18 Years : My daddy is becoming increasingly cranky. At 20 Years : Oh! Its becoming difficult to tolerate daddy. Wonder how Mother puts up with him. At 25 Years : Daddy is objecting to everything. Don't know when he will understand the world. At 30 Years : It's becoming difficult to manage my son. I was so scared of my father when I was young. At 40 Years : Daddy brought me up with so much discipline. I wonder how he managed to handle the younger generation. At 45 Years : I am baffled as to how my daddy brought us up. At 50 Years : My daddy faced so many hardships to bring us up. (We were four brothers and sisters). I am unable to manage a single son. At 55 Years : My daddy was so far sighted and planned so many things for us. Even at this old age, he is able to control things.He is one of his kind and unique. At 60 Years : My daddy was great. Thus, it took 56 years to complete the cycle and come back to the 1st
stage! So.................................Realise it in time.
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Unconditional Love is the Answer
Unconditional Love is the Answer There was a time in my life I became afraid to love. Because all those times I fell in love, I got hurt. I thought maybe that's why it's called "falling" in love.
I would give my all, loving deeply and wholeheartedly. It would be a truly emotional, extremely euphoric experience. I would dream about the object of my affection all day and all night, imagining good times together, thinking of what I can do or give him to show how much I cared. I would feel light as a feather, energized and excited, literally blooming with the joy I felt inside. Then somehow something would go wrong and my whole world would crash. Disappointment. Resentment. Anger. Pain.
Why? Can we not love without pain? Is disappointment really a price to pay for all the happiness we feel when we're in love? Should we blindly accept that because we love we get hurt?
It was only after many years of soul-searching and internalizing inspirational writings that I discovered that I can love without getting hurt. I finally understood that unconditional love was the answer.
Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. It is the fire that burns inside, the essence of being. Love is the source of all our comfort and contentment. It is a precious gift that defines our purpose in life. If we keep in mind that we can indeed preserve its true meaning, we can love to the fullest and be happy the rest of our lives.
Accept that people express love in different ways.
How do YOU express your love? You say "I love you" three times a day, you kiss and embrace him every chance you get, you never forget your anniversaries, and you always prepare his favorite dishes. How does HE express his love? He rarely says "I love you", he seldom kisses you, he forgets your birthday, and he doesn't even try to cook. But he works overtime, walks the dog, helps you with the laundry, takes you to the movies, and calls you "Honey". He probably loves you as much as you love him, he just shows it differently. If you can accept that difference then you can have a healthier perspective of your relationship.
Derive happiness from giving love.
When you love, do it because you want to. There is indescribable joy in loving. Just give it. And cherish the satisfaction in having given someone something of yourself. It's like giving a gift. Whether it is appreciated or not, find joy in simply giving.
Love without expecting anything in return.
Now this is where pain comes in: when you demand something in return for the love you give. You are actually setting yourself up for disappointment because love cannot always be reciprocal. Love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time and place. No matter how much your partner loves you, she will never be able to fill all your needs all the time. And you are worst off if you believe you should love only when you are sure to receive equal love in return. Sad to say, you will be waiting in misery forever.
Love now.
The past is gone and the future is just a dream. All of yesterday's aches and pains, even the joys and laughter, are mere memories. Let them go. And your fantasies and worries? They may never come. So why dwell on them? Live now. Give love now. Do it now and enjoy the moment. That is the secret of inner contentment.
Throw away those destructive habits.
When you insist upon yourself that you always have to be in control, that you always have to be right, that others must always please you, you mold unreasonable expectations of yourself and the ones you love. Loving relationships are flexible, dynamic, and evolving. Give room for change and interaction. Allow for new behavior and learning experiences. When we welcome these into our lives, we open ourselves up to love and affection rather than anger and frustration.
Yes, you will say that unconditional love is easier said than done. Especially when we have always believed that love is give and take. Try believing that love is simply giving. They say “Give until it hurts”. Let’s say “Love until it hurts no more”.
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eight gifts
Eight Gifts that Do Not Cost A Cent . . . 1) THE GIFT OF LISTENING . . .
But you must REALLY listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning
your response. Just listening. 2) THE GIFT OF AFFECTION . . .
Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds.
Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and
friends. 3) THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER . . .
Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, "I love
to laugh with you." 4) THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE . . .
It can be a simple "Thanks for the help" note or a full sonnet. A brief,
handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life. 5) THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT . . .
A simple and sincere, "You look great in red,""You did a super job" or
"That was a wonderful meal" can make someone's day. 6) THE GIFT OF A FAVOR . . .
Every day, go out of your way to do something kind. 7) THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE . . .
There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be
sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others. 8) THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION . . .
The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone, really
it's not that hard to say, Hello or Thank You. Friends are a very rare
jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend
an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their
hearts to us . . .
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wht is a friend
What Is a Friend . . .
In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have
the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.
In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the
bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls. In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you
stand up to the class bully. In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their
lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus. In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to
switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck
do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nick or Smelly Susan. In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the
back of the bus for you. In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nick or
Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they
said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed. In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the
social studies homework from the night before that you had. In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you
pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball but didn't laugh at you when
you finished and broke out into tears. In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a
party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman
there. In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their
schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch. In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you
rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be
grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick [or Drew] or Susan, and
found you a date to the prom. In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you
pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get into that
college/university, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard
time adjusting to the idea of letting you go. At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on
the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they
congratulated you. The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the
house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now
that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it
through anything, helped you pack up for university and just silently hugged
you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were
leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of
their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well
as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college
knowing you were loved. Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better
of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off
those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are
not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past
behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer,
stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make
time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure
from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better
person, and most importantly loves you! Pass this on to those friends of the past, and those of the future, and
those you have met along the way... and remember... No matter where we go or who we become, never forget who helped us get
there. There's never a wrong time to pick up a phone or send a message telling your
friends how much you miss them or how much you love them. You know who you are, pass it on to someone who you want to remind. And
thank you for being a friend . . .
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WHY WOMEN CRY
Why women cry . . .
"Why are you crying?" he asked his mom.
"Because I'm a woman," she told him.
"I don't understand," he said. His mom just hugged him and said, "And you
never will.."
Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no
reason?"
"All women cry for no reason" was all his dad could say... The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry... Finally he put in a call to GOD; when GOD got on the phone the man said,
"GOD, why do women cry so easily?" GOD said.. When I made women she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough
to carry the weight of the world; yet, gentle enough to give comfort.. I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that
many times comes from her children.. I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives
up and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without
complaining.. I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all
circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly.. This same sensitivity helps her to make a child's boo-boo feel better and
shares in their teenagers anxieties and fears.. I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned
her from his rib to protect his heart.. I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but
sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him
unfalteringly.. I gave her a tear to shed, It's hers exclusively to use whenever it is
needed. It's her only weakness.. It's a tear for mankind .
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